Wednesday, 29 May 2024
Wednesday, 29 May 2024

UK faces post-pandemic bereavement crisis and lasting legacy of grief

NEW research has highlighted the difficulties and distress people experienced when trying to get support after the death of a loved one during the pandemic, with more than half of people (51%) experiencing high or severe vulnerability in their grief and those seeking support facing long waiting lists or being told they are ineligible.

The survey, carried out by Cardiff University’s Marie Curie Palliative Care Research Centre and the University of Bristol, found that of bereaved people demonstrating high or severe levels of vulnerability, three quarters (74%) were not accessing formal bereavement services or mental health support.

The majority of people seeking help with their grief said they had struggled to access bereavement services. Of the 40% who tried to get support, just over half experienced difficulties such as long waiting lists, ineligibility or a lack of appropriate support. People also reported discomfort asking for help and were unsure how to access services. The study is funded by the Economic and Social Research Council (ESRC) as part of UK Research and Innovations’ rapid response to COVID-19.

In the first UK-wide survey of its kind, the results also showed that:

• Four in 10 participants (39%) reported difficulties in getting support from friends and family.
• With reduced social contact and the wider social difficulties of the pandemic, a quarter of people (25%) reported that their friends or family were unable to support them in the way that they wanted.
• One in five (19%) reported feeling uncomfortable asking for help.

The study found that the pandemic had a major impact on the quality of support for the bereaved and disrupted collective mourning practices, which people said compounded feelings of isolation.

Sarah Candlish, 47, experienced the death of her husband (Simon) and mother (Ethel) in the first wave of the pandemic. Her mother was admitted to hospital with Covid-19 and died alone, whereas her partner Simon had stage 3 bladder cancer and died at home with the support of Marie Curie Nurses and Sarah at his side.

Sarah said:

“I wasn’t able to deal with the process of losing mam as I had to make what time I had left with Simon count. Having to care for Simon and arrange my mam’s funeral at the same time was just awful, knowing I would be doing the very same for Simon very soon.

“I wasn’t able to see her in hospital in the final two weeks of her life. It makes it feel like it never happened, and I always thought I’d be with my mam when she died. It’s left me with a lot of guilt thinking, should I have done more? When you get told someone has died, and you’re not with them, and you can’t see them, it’s really hard. There wasn’t a body to see, so it’s hard to grasp that they’ve gone. It still doesn’t feel real for me.

“It was all so disrupted, and I couldn’t take comfort from people being around and talking to me about her, so when she died, she just died. There wasn’t any processing of the grief. I spoke to friends over text and the phone, but there wasn’t any cuddling or face-to-face conversations. There wasn’t the physical presence of people, which has delayed my grief. It’s been a year now, and I feel stuck.

“For people dealing with grief now, there needs to be quicker access to services. The waits are too long, and there needs to be more literature. You need to be handed something with everything in, with all the signposting to the different services. For me, losing my mam feels as intense as losing a child. Towards the end, I was more like the parent than the child in our relationship. But in society, losing a parent is expected, so sometimes I feel like I can’t express the full intensity of my grief. It’s like a massive void, as great as losing a child. People say it’s the natural order of things, but it doesn’t feel natural at all.”

Dr Emily Harrop, from the Marie Curie Palliative Care Research Centre based at Cardiff University, said:

“It is incredibly upsetting to know that even when people did reach out to access the support they desperately needed, they still faced difficulties such as long waiting lists or being told they are ineligible. We really need politicians and policy-makers to take a thorough look at how we can make changes to support people both before and after a death in the future.”

“The survey results show that many people faced significant challenges in dealing with bereavement during the pandemic and highlights that more awareness of support options, information on grief and bereavement services should be provided proactively following a death and made available online and in the community.”

Dr Lucy Selman, from the Palliative and End of Life Care Research Group and the Centre for Academic Primary Care at the University of Bristol, said:

“The pandemic is going to impact millions of people’s grief for many years to come. It is imperative we ensure that bereaved people receive the correct support for their needs to prevent prolonged grief disorder and other problems.

“We hope that the publication of these results and the launch of the UK Commission on Bereavement will provide an opportunity to implement some of our recommendations to improve end of life care and bereavement support and that those in power will help make the necessary changes.”

Researchers at Cardiff University and the University of Bristol, including a Marie Curie Palliative Care Research Centre team, researched to voice the experiences of people bereaved in the UK of any cause from 16 March 2020 up until 5 January 2021. The team has now released initial findings from the analysis of 711 respondents to the survey and provided recommendations for future policies and practices.


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