FROM garden parties to festivals, it can be hard to keep up with all the fun things to do in the summer months – but the fear of saying no should never lead to a build-up of stress. That’s why the Charlie Watkins Foundation is calling on people to put themselves first this summer.
Everyone wants to make the most of glorious summer sunshine – after all, it isn’t something Britain is regularly blessed with.
But one thing we have become very good at is the art of saying yes when we really want to say no. What we don’t always realise is the negative impact this can have on our wellbeing.
This can make for a minefield of navigating through calendars when friends and family come calling – but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Why should you say no?
Mental health is a serious issue – and one so many people often overlook themselves. Indeed, one in six people in England experience mental ill health every single week.
Your needs matter the most when you are faced with a mental health crisis. Both recovery and remediation are deeply personal experiences that should never be overlooked in favour of making other people happy.
Those sorts of difficult decisions often become more of a regularity in the summer, leading to an overwhelming fear of letting loved ones down.
But saying no is always your right – especially when it comes to your mental health. That time could be better spent enjoying your hobbies, decompressing or enjoying your favourite way to unwind.
How to say no
Saying no shouldn’t have to be rude. Politeness is important, and can easily be applied when declining an offer.
But while there is no need to be assertive, you should never feel pressured to justify your reasons for wanting to spend your time elsewhere.
Your mental health comes first – and you are always free to change your mind.
So next time you receive an invite to a gathering, stop and think – what do you really want to do?
At the Charlie Watkins Foundation, we support young people up and down the UK with their mental health.
If you would like to support us and our mission to improve the nation’s mental health, please consider donating here.